Group work ??

  

       So yeah, part of studying what I'm studying is having to work in groups constantly. Believe me, it's not as easy as it may seem. Interacting with people from different countries, different cultures, different personalities isn't really so easy, unless you are patient and not bad tempered like myself. However, this year I'm keeping my cool up. I'm not losing my temper anymore, I'll use the threatening method. No, I'm not being horrible, I just don't want to ache my head anymore, right?
    
   I've worked with different types of people, and have had a tough time, I wonder how did I keep myself from going all mad and yelling at them, I think it's called being mature right? I'd rather call it the observation period, secondly, I don't want to make enemies because apparently if you tell someone to work harder or any kind of that advice they would say you're no longer their friend and start whining about it, also talk bad behind your back.

    If you want people to work with you and co-operate well, you've gotta be a good leader, some people mistake being a dictator for being a leader, guess what homie, you're wrong. It will only make people avoid you, and feel depressed or show you all signs of disturbance and believe me you don't want to feel unwanted. If you know you're going to spend 4 years with the same people, you have to make it at least a peaceful phase for yourself and them because apparently you'll have to work with them in these 4 years anyway, no running away from that. By being a good leader I do mean being strict but not a dictator!! Set some rules, explain it to everyone and make sure you ask for others opinions on why they think you decided to set such rule, and give them examples about how you want the work done and what do you expect. Explain the punishments too. Moreover, don't do the mistake of giving them a paper with  list of rules without sitting and discussing it. 
   You might come across people who would remain silent the whole time and\or agree with everything, these shouldn't be dangerous but make sure you talk to them individually later on perhaps get to know what's in their mind.
   Being a leader doesn't really mean you get to boss around, you have to realize part of being a leader means you have big responsibility to look after your team and correct everything eventually
   "A leader is best when people barely know he exists, when his work is done, his aim fulfilled, they will say: we did it ourselves."
Make sure you remember that quote, because a leader is definitely not a dictator. Now you want your team to love you and work well with you, why not sit in a group and do the work altogether, a good atmosphere helps getting better results, whereas demanding the whole time and stressing out won't help you at all. Yes, I've worked with those tensed over nothing.

   So what if you're not the leader? You don't have to always be the leader, give chance to others as well right? if their method haven't worked then maybe you could step up. Give others chance always, they might impress you when you ask them to be the leader for once. It's okay to relax every now and then and give others chance. You could always state your opinion anyway during your meeting times if you disagreed with something. After all it's all a group work right? you're not alone in this, and you can't let your group work alone either. Makes sense?

   Now I had to work with someone, and it was one bad experience that I truly regret not taking an action about it. Gotta admit I was going through a really tough time, but it's a lesson I'm never forgetting, ever! I had to work with someone who did nothing when it came to delivering the task, and wouldn't let me state my opinions because '' I joined late '' . It was partially my mistake because I was kind enough not to inform the teacher, as a result to that, the person went to the teacher before the presentation day and said some rubbish about me, so many untrue things like i didn't work on the assignment, and because I was in Oman for 4 days before the deadline for presentation the teacher bought the person's words and guess who was the mistaken one... ME! I don't care about what has been said behind my back and the poor performance or what others thought of me, all I know is what goes around comes back around - enough said - and this is the first and last time this happens to me, I haven't really relieved my mean side because it's not so pretty, it's pure evil and I don't want it to ever show anyway. 

   The moral of that story is, have a cooperate agreement people, and stick to it. Whoever goes against it should get the punishment they deserve. 
Some people again mistake work relationship to personal, so you might as well come across those who would go like, but we're friends. Don't let these words abuse you, because a true friend won't use you in such way where your case is lost, it's either work well or don't work. There is a different when you're working and how serious you have to be because this results in your future, and when someone's just being childish or selfish.

   People, do not mistake friendship when it comes to work, respect the fact that work is work, there are consequences resulting in bad work (or good) . You don't hold your own fate here, but other peoples' too !


   So yeah, there are few tricks to go on in a team, set the rules and you're good to go. Oh, and don't you go bad mouthing about others because it would only show how cheap you are, just saying! Children complain others, straighten up and be responsible, know what actions you should take, but wisely!


     Here were my 2 cents, who sent you sent for me? oh wait, I suddenly sang EMINEM's song :p so yeah.. cheers!

Aren't you my friend?!

x  : "can you lend me some money please"
y : "Sure, here you go"
after days.. weeks.. months? 
y : " hey remember you borrowed money from me, when are you going to give it back?"
x : " aren't we friends?? These things shouldn't come in between, why being so stingy?  etc etc etc.."

This is the scenario that annoys me the most. 

    We've reached to a level, where if someone asks you to lend him something, and after a while you ask for the thing back, they go all like, we're friends and you shouldn't really make a big deal about this, I haven't expected this from you.
But... wasn't it mine in the first place?

   Some people don't really feel ashamed to ask you for things, even if their relation is not so strong with you. If you refuse they would talk around about how stingy you are that you don't want to lend something to them. They would also say that would return it to you later on, but when the time comes and you remind them that they have to give back what's yours, they would make you feel guilty somehow even though you haven really done anything wrong, they would go like 'so you're making a big deal out of this now? is this how much you need it? can't you get another one for yourself' DUDE, it's mine OK! How dare them talk in such way, I mean...  don't you really feel ashamed of such actions?! Firstly asking for something that's not your, and then when the time comes to give back you make it sound like it's no big deal that a person shouldn't ask for his own things back.. Think about it, where is your dignity?
   
    Using friendship in such cases is considered as abusing to be honest, a true friend won't use the 'friendship' as an excuse to borrow things.

  There are some people, who if you told them 'No' would immediately disappear from your life, like they never existed.. but aren't we friends?! Apparently, if you don't lend them things then you're not a friend, this is the sad story that we're living nowadays!

   I was never the type who would say 'no' to ''friends'' because I valued the friendship, and I wouldn't -later- ask them to return what's mine because I was too shy to do so. Had to learn it the hard way... Some people do take advantage of others and feel no shame about it, so why should I feel ashamed too right?
   If your friendship means borrowing my things and never giving it back then to hell with this kind of friendship, I don't need you, apparently you're in need with my objects. I work hard to get things, in the end you take it and blame me later for making it a big deal? That's an ultimate nonsense.
   There are people who use sweet talk to do such things, it only makes me laugh at them whenever they start their ways, at the same time I pity them.


   Now of course everyone might go into some sort of trouble and would need any kind of 'help' from their friends, but there's a limit and there's some sort of respect that maybe if I couldn't help you today, you would still talk to me and appreciate me as a friend, after all everyone have their own excuse. There also is the kind of understanding that you return the thing when you're able to, don't pretend like nothing happened.  Don't be a heavy load on someone's shoulder!! 

  If you get rid of such people from your life, you'd be happier. Maybe you should say 'no' after all.. To those who abuse the meaning of friendship.


  I loath such people and such actions.


But I love you my readers,

   xo

The worse type of HYPO

Hola!

So previously I've explained what Hypo is, I don't mind explaining it again : When the glucose level in the body goes low. you could check this link for more info

Today I've experienced a scary moment, truly. I thank god I could control it somehow.
Well,  as I also previously explained how I recently begun to lucid dream, and it do gets scary sometimes, out of control little bit?

I woke up with this weird ache in my head, felt like someone hammered my head. I opened my eyes trying to figure if this was real or another dream. I was too tired to think, too tired to survive what  I was going through.. I felt like fainting, but if it's a dream then it's okay to faint right? In dreams I can't get harmed.. My body was shivering, I was feeling so weak.. Focus brain.. Focus.. This isn't a dream.. but, I can just let it as well happen since it won't really effect me.
I was too confused, exhausted, & too weak, no power to figure out if this was another dream or reality. 
Whenever I felt like I was going to faint, or whenever I fainted and tried to survive, I told myself to stop for a while, close my eyes take a break to collect the power I need to stand up again, and it worked, but in this case since I got a hypo as well, I knew if i let myself rest for a second I wasn't going to wake up easily this time. It was quite dangerous situation. 
I had a bar of kinder bueno, gotta admit it tasted yummier than any other time I've eaten it. I've felt like I haven't eaten for too long, then again even when I was eating it, I was still thinking if this was real or not.
When I got the control back, and the shivers stopped.. I ate some biscuits like I haven't eaten since 10 years or so   0.o  .
I was told when glucose is low, a person starts eating like there's no tomorrow, especially sweet things which is so unhealthy, I tried to stop myself but I somehow couldn't, brain told me to eat much as I was and convinced me somehow that this is the last time I would eat this much after a hypo but who am I kidding... it's food we're talking about. Meh.
It made me think too, that I have to keep a journal, or more like a diary about my food habits only, this would help me a lot knowing the wrong habits I have and what I need to correct.
Dad keeps telling me, this is the right age and time to take care of our health and body, if we took good care of our body now, late age at 30s and 40s it won't give us hard time, otherwise you know what happens!!

Would you rather live on meds or healthy and powerful when you're old?
Think about it.


I'm loving the font, seems like I'll be using this forever and ever ;p

A month of no GAMING

    Ever since I came back to Oman, I made an oath to myself of not playing any game. It's more of a resolution. I promised myself to devote my time to my family members, well even they're not around I wasn't allowed to play any video game.
     In the beginning it was easy not to play anything because I was busy catching up with family and friends. I didn't even have time to check my facebook much, which is good actually I wanted to be busy and away from social network websites. I haven't touched my laptop for the first 2 complete weeks. I felt like it was a successful mission. After 2 weeks, it started to get a very little boring, I mean.. I started to get the urges to play. I felt like I was an addict and they took away the drugs at once. YES, it's like that okay. I had to do some work for dad so I had to use the laptop later on, so I opened my 'League of Legends' client, there was an update so I was like okay, this is a sign that I shouldn't play yet.
  There were times I was bored to death [ night time, well as it's summer holidays, no one sleeps early, wait.. who am I kidding, either ways I don't sleep early haha ] so I would get angry and would want to play but I find excuses to take my mind away, because I know if I started playing I wouldn't really stop, and I'd play contentiously which will ruin the holiday and my plan to devote my time to my  family.
   I'm so glad I passed one whole month of not playing. Today this ends. I'm going back to playing OK. 
  The thing is, once you're a gamer.. you will never ever get bored.
Look at the bright side, you don't have to waste money on anything, you're having fun, spending time and not wasting money or getting bored. See! it's fun.

Let the gaming session BEGIN.  See you fellas.. when I'm done playing !!!
Kiddin.. I'll be postin' soon.

xo's

HomeMade Frappucino !

   As most of you must have known already I'm a frape addict. Coming back to Oman means I won't be able to go to any cafe' more often just like how I used to go to Starbucks everyday in Deventer. Well, things aren't close by that you could go by walking [ Even if you were a rambo and decided to walk, the weather won't have mercy on you ] so yeah, I end up craving for things that I won't get. :(    Sad sto

ry I know
   So I decided, hey!! why not make my own frappucino YAY!!


You need :

- Ice cubes [ 1 cup or 2 ]
- Vanilla syrup \ Caramel \ Chocolate   [ depends on the flavor that you favor!! ]
- Coffee
- milk [half cup is okay]
- Sugar 
Now remember, syrup isn't the same as the vanilla essence or anything like that.

How to do it :

put the coffee in the milk, add the sugar in it and the syrup and then stir it.

Now I won't tell you how much of each you need to put because it depends on how you like it, ofx you can taste it and decide what more you need to add.

Then put your ingredients in the blender and add the 2 cups of ice in, blend  READY!
you can always add whipped cream on top to give it that professional look

I didn't really have caramel or vanilla syrup at home, there was chocolate only and I totally dislike chocolate drinks, so I made my own vanilla syrup, it's easy to make. [Haven't figured how to do the caramel yet so yeah, I'll go buy me a ready one better]


Vanilla syrup.

Ingredients:

- one cup of water
- one cup of sugar
- 3 or 4 tablespoons of vanilla extract

How to do it : 

Let the water boil, add sugar in it and stir it. When it becomes clear add the vanilla extract to it. Stir it for a while.



Enjoy your drink!

Perfumes [ Part 1 ]

     I'm a bit too picky when it comes to .... EVERYTHING.

  This post is dedicated to the perfumes I really love.I only try different perfumes when mom buys them for me, otherwise I'd go for almost the same collection. Those essences bring back some sweet memories and I like to remember them actually. Therefore, even when I change my perfume collection from time to time, you'll find some of the old perfumes in my collection.

- Miss cherie Dior. 

I remember not liking this perfume in the beginning :P it was given to me as a gift I guess? and I felt like okay I'll use it everyday to finish it quickly [ I rarely throw away things xD ] but then I was surprised by how I fell in love with the smell. Soon it was so addicting, kind of smell that took my own breath away. It's so sweet and strong. 

Recently I've gone to so many shops in the Netherlands, but couldn't really find it. I found a similar bottle of perfume but 'cherie' wasn't written on it, also the smell wasn't so strong. I've asked around and they said they don't sell this one anymore. I was really upset because I'm in love with the smell of this perfume. I think I saw a bottle of it in Oman's duty free section I have to check again next time I go :o wish me luck I really want this perfume so badly :<

- Paco rabanne black XS

Funny story about this perfume is, back in early 2000 I used to watch a series called 'Angel' I'm pretty sure you all know it, the handsome vampire <3 so yeah every time there was a break, an advertisement of this perfume would come, if I'm not mistaken they were the sponsors? So just because I loved watching Angel so much, and they were the sponsors I fell in love with the perfume without even knowing how it would smell.. But ey! I wasn't mistaken, it smelled really good, and I still love it!

- Versace : Crystal Noir

This perfume has a very sweet smell, it was one of those to get rid of perfumes too haha. I also like the light brown color versace the 'yellow diamond' one, they're pretty decent perfumes with light sweet smell that doesn't fade away easily.

- Carolina Herrera

I remember sneaking to my mom's room to use this perfume. It was mom's and I loved it so much. It has this sugary kind of smell that drives me crazy. I tried the pink one but it doesn't smell as good as this one

- Anfasic Dukhoon [28 aug? ]

These perfumes if I'm not mistaken have that mixture of  Frankenstein smell but in a different way. I think I don't know how to describe it, but it is the arabic kind of perfume. Each smell has a certain date. I was given this one as a gift too, it was just a normal perfume which soon was one of my favorites! I think the one Mom gave me was 28 Aug? See, everytime I go to city cintre the stall is closed or something happens and I forget to buy the perfume, but I'll make it a mission to get it before I go abroad. 

There was this one perfume I used to use, it had a very strong smell, that sometimes I'd suffocate for a while but I just loved it so much.. Can't really remember the name of it, but I do know how it looks like, I'm not sure if it's available anymore, it came with a pink shaped heart and a cream. It's another mission to find out the name of it.

So yeah there are my favorite perfumes, each have so many memories. 

Next post would be the male perfumes, stay tuned :D

Reading ...

   

     Once upon a time, I read lots of books. I'd read for hours and hours, yet I wouldn't actually get bored. Not that I get bored now or something..It's just that I no longer give time to reading anymore.
     There was a while when I literally considered books to be my best friends. I'd rather read than talk to my classmates when we had a free period at school, the time where everyone would talk, gossip, brag and all kinds of things, except for me. Believe me : No regrets! I enjoyed every minute I spent reading every single word.
    There was a pleasure in spending all that time reading. I felt like i was feeding my soul so much that after finishing a book I feel so full, the good kind of full not the one which after eating you feel lazy and can't move... get the picture? :P
    Even when we used to go to UAE [ well, we used to go every weekend I kind'f got bored of shopping] so I would go to the library in the mall and spend hours reading, not feeling the time ticking. Here also [ in Oman ] I used to go to borders whenever the family decided to go to 'city center' and would sit there not minding how long it was.
    I actually have so many books and magazines that I've collected ever since I was 9 ? Mom always threatens me to throw them away but I go like ' NOOOOO ITS MY PROPERTY ITS MY TREASURE I SPENT A FORTUNE ON THOSE... MY BABIES! '  God knows how many 'majid' magazines I collected through all those years. Didnt see that coming? well yeah I always went to the shop [mal 7ara] Tuesday night and bought the magazine because waiting till Wednesday which was the official day was too mainstream haha! That on one side, and my novels... they're everywhere around the house.. no wait mom put them in the storage room.
     I haven't really read a proper book since two years now? Recently as I came back for vacation, I went to bareeq Al-shatti mall where there is a section for 2nd hand books\novels and bought me 2 novels. I'm still reading the first novel and didnt finish half of it yet, yes.. no time! But I'm planning to take a few with me back to the Netherlands and seriously start reading since I spend time on train [which might not be the case if I moved] but yeah, it's a good way to spend time, I'm trying to be a less of a gamer but I think the habit of gaming would be back once i go there :P !!
    I'll create my own little library at my house there, promise :P ! 
Time to feed my soul again and get creative.. you know that effect you get after reading so many books.


If you fellows have any book suggestions, please do mention the names I'd like to read different things and see your opinions.