x : "can you lend me some money please"
y : "Sure, here you go"
after days.. weeks.. months?
y : " hey remember you borrowed money from me, when are you going to give it back?"
x : " aren't we friends?? These things shouldn't come in between, why being so stingy? etc etc etc.."
This is the scenario that annoys me the most.
We've reached to a level, where if someone asks you to lend him something, and after a while you ask for the thing back, they go all like, we're friends and you shouldn't really make a big deal about this, I haven't expected this from you.
But... wasn't it mine in the first place?
Some people don't really feel ashamed to ask you for things, even if their relation is not so strong with you. If you refuse they would talk around about how stingy you are that you don't want to lend something to them. They would also say that would return it to you later on, but when the time comes and you remind them that they have to give back what's yours, they would make you feel guilty somehow even though you haven really done anything wrong, they would go like 'so you're making a big deal out of this now? is this how much you need it? can't you get another one for yourself' DUDE, it's mine OK! How dare them talk in such way, I mean... don't you really feel ashamed of such actions?! Firstly asking for something that's not your, and then when the time comes to give back you make it sound like it's no big deal that a person shouldn't ask for his own things back.. Think about it, where is your dignity?
Using friendship in such cases is considered as abusing to be honest, a true friend won't use the 'friendship' as an excuse to borrow things.
There are some people, who if you told them 'No' would immediately disappear from your life, like they never existed.. but aren't we friends?! Apparently, if you don't lend them things then you're not a friend, this is the sad story that we're living nowadays!
I was never the type who would say 'no' to ''friends'' because I valued the friendship, and I wouldn't -later- ask them to return what's mine because I was too shy to do so. Had to learn it the hard way... Some people do take advantage of others and feel no shame about it, so why should I feel ashamed too right?
If your friendship means borrowing my things and never giving it back then to hell with this kind of friendship, I don't need you, apparently you're in need with my objects. I work hard to get things, in the end you take it and blame me later for making it a big deal? That's an ultimate nonsense.
There are people who use sweet talk to do such things, it only makes me laugh at them whenever they start their ways, at the same time I pity them.
Now of course everyone might go into some sort of trouble and would need any kind of 'help' from their friends, but there's a limit and there's some sort of respect that maybe if I couldn't help you today, you would still talk to me and appreciate me as a friend, after all everyone have their own excuse. There also is the kind of understanding that you return the thing when you're able to, don't pretend like nothing happened. Don't be a heavy load on someone's shoulder!!
If you get rid of such people from your life, you'd be happier. Maybe you should say 'no' after all.. To those who abuse the meaning of friendship.
I loath such people and such actions.
But I love you my readers,
xo
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